You Cannot Improve Yourself

by Akira
A man raising a fist to himself in the mirror, a victim of the self-improvement sickness.

All that self-improvement you’ve been focused on your whole life? A waste of fucking time. You’ve been beating yourself up, chasing some elusive version of “better,” and where has it gotten you? Nowhere but stuck in a loop of self-rejection and frustration. But here’s the good news: you can stop wasting your energy. And you can finally give yourself the one thing you’ve been chasing all along—permission to simply be.

Self-improvement is a sickness, and it’s making us sicker. It’s this endless, insane cycle of trying to become some upgraded version of ourselves, and all it’s doing is draining us.

You’re always at your best. It’s time to acknowledge that and stop the insanity—the insane idea that if you reject yourself, then you’ll somehow be a better version of yourself. That’s pure madness. You’re not going to become some upgraded, shiny new you by tearing down who you are right now. You can’t beat yourself into growth like a goddamn piñata. All you’re doing is smashing yourself into pieces and wondering why there’s no candy inside!

The only “improvement” that actually matters is acknowledging that you’ve always been your best self, in every moment, with whatever you’re dealing with. You’re already at your best, right now. You’re doing all you can, and rejecting yourself for it isn’t going to make you any better in the next moment.

You can’t beat yourself into growth like a goddamn piñata. All you’re doing is smashing yourself into pieces and wondering why there’s no candy inside!

Rejecting yourself in this moment is not going to magically transform you into your ideal self. It’s not going to give you more energy, clarity, or creativity. All it does is keep you trapped in a cycle of self-inflicted bullshit, never actually getting anywhere. You’re at your best right now, even with all your doubts, fears, and flaws. And if that statement pisses you off, good. Because that’s what’s keeping you stuck—this crazy idea that hating where you are is going to get you somewhere better. You’re at your best right now. Fighting against this moment like it’s supposed to be something other than what it is, or trying to be someone other than who you are right now, is exactly why you’re stuck.

Really think about it: This moment, right here, is the best you can be. Not what you were five minutes ago, not what you might be tomorrow—but right now. And rejecting it is just throwing away your own power. You’re not going to unlock some mythical level of perfection by hating on yourself. It’s like trying to become a world-class boxer by punching yourself in the face. All you’re doing is beating yourself senseless and wondering why you’re still stuck.

The only real improvement comes from the end of self-rejection and the end of the self-improvement disease. It’s realizing that you’re doing your best right now and letting yourself be who you are right now, because you see that you can’t be anything or anyone other than exactly who you are in this moment. This is your best, and trying to be better is just making you sicker.

It’s like trying to become a world-class boxer by punching yourself in the face. All you’re doing is beating yourself senseless and wondering why you’re still stuck.

So here’s a radical thought: What if you acknowledged that you’re doing your best right now? Not in some fake, feel-good way, but genuinely. What if you said, “This is me, showing up as I am, and that’s enough”? Because it is enough. When you stop rejecting yourself, you stop wasting energy on bullshit and start channeling it into something real.

Even the self-rejection you’re feeling? That’s still you doing your best. You’re coping in the only way you know how. But don’t confuse it with growth—it’s not. It’s just another way to keep yourself stuck.

So, fuck rejection. Embrace what is. You’re doing your best in every single moment, and that’s enough. You are enough. Right here, right now.

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